Sometimes it may seem like us yoginis love our Manduka as much as our man. We promise this is not the case—most of the time. You don’t have to be a serious yogi or even know what downward dog means to win our hearts. As long as we stay true to our practice and both partners continue to nurture our relationship, our inner Shakti will keep smiling. Here are six easy ways to keep your yogini happy and firmly rooted in love:
1. Fully support our morning meditation—For us, skipping our daily “sit” can be worse than a coffee addict missing their morning coffee. We love it, we need it, and we feel like a better person because of it. (Don’t worry: there are definitely other things we like to do before leaving the bed and heading to our Zafu cushion.) But if you notice our meditation practice waning in lieu of long mornings in bed together, let us know. You can even deepen the intimacy by having us perch on top of you for ten minutes of silence.
2. Tell us how much you enjoyed going to yoga—Many of our men are new to yoga. We are so happy to support your discovery of this practice by going to classes and trying new teachers together. We know it can be intimidating to try a new class without us by your side. But if you give it a shot and enjoy it, please do call us afterwards and let us know how much you loved it. Nothing gives us greater pleasure than knowing you can “drop in” on your own.
3. Give our yoga friends a chance—We know that yoga people can be different. We can be picky eaters who avoid television and gossip magazines, and we may be highly sensitive to certain people’s energy. This is our tribe and we have a strong bond. While you may be skeptical at first, we bet you’ll be pleasantly surprised by our yogi and yogini friends once you get to know them.
4. Surprise us with a home-cooked meal from the farmers market—It’s no secret: we take our health very seriously. That’s why you love us! Glowing skin, flexible hips and yoga butts come with a health conscious, often local and organic price tag. So stock up at your local market one weekend and surprise us with a homemade Sunday night dinner. The thought and effort alone is a surefire way to our hearts.
5. Let us know your innermost feelings—As women and yoginis we love to talk about our feelings. In fact, we tend to make it regular conversation. One of the most attractive things you can do is show us you are in touch with your own feminine energy (your inner Shakti) by letting us know how you truly feel. While actions can speak louder than words, we love to know that you can articulate your thoughts and feelings aloud. That shows us you feel comfortable enough to open up and be a little bit vulnerable, so we can do the same.
6. Know that we are more like you than you think—Yes, we do yoga to stay grounded and calm in times of stress. But this doesn’t mean we don’t lose our s**t sometimes. There will be times that we make mistakes, hurt feelings and have momentary lapses of grace. After all, our yoga practice is just that: a practice. Remembering that we are just as human as everyone else will help each of us feel more supported and accepted.
Full disclaimer: Yes, it’s true. Sometimes we yoginis just need to fix a local, organic vegan meal with our fellow mala-wearing crew, listening to the sweet sounds of Krishna Das chanting in the background, burning Nag Champa and blessing our plates before enjoying our meal and taking turns reading from the Tao. You may not always want to partake, and that’s totally fine with us. Just remember that at the end of the day, we get to come home to you, happy, refreshed and filled with even more love to give.
Have you recently started dating a yoga goddess—or are you a yogini who loves introducing your man to yoga? What’s your experience been like? Share your thoughts below in the comments.
Amy Baglan is the founder of YogaDates and a hopeless romantic who left New York City to pursue her passions in 2010 and never looked back. She studied Ashtanga yoga in India and fell in love with Thai massage in Chiang Mai, Thailand before gratefully calling Colorado her new home. Amy is also a certified Principle-Based Partner Yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach & licensed massage therapist.